Natural Ways to Unwind During the Holiday Hustle and Bustle
As the holiday cheerful activity approaches, it can quickly morph into a time of over-commitment, and produce an unbridled and unhealthy stress mode. There are only so many hours in each day and as numerous social, business and personal relationships make increasing demands, and requests for your authentic and phenomenal presence, it’s time to lean on natural and effective relaxation techniques, along with self-love and self-talk healthy behaviors, to avoid being overwhelmed by the busyness and hectic pace that these highly emotional, spiritual and beautiful events generate.
Identifying Personal Stress Triggers
Recently the American Psychological Association conducted a study relating to women and holiday stress. The resulting observations identified nearly half of all American women as suffering from increased pressure, nervous tension and worry, during the onset of holiday activity. Of course, the celebration of holidays, with its noisy and chaotic hustle-and-bustle, makes both men and women feel very alive, excited, purposive and invigorated. The flip side to these positive feelings and behaviors, due to so many have-two’s, is a buildup of tenseness and stress, sleep deprivation, poor nutrition and a lack of consistency with exercise and mental composure.
As stress begins to build when: special gift shopping, Black Friday sales, holiday money management, cooking, decorating, work related social gatherings, party planning, tradition building, family bonding, and spiritual interactions bombard the senses; and the inherit effort to make monumental memories at this time of the year, presents itself; personal needs are swiftly abandoned. Moderation of spending, socializing, and even togetherness with extended family, is abandoned, and excessive behaviors take control. However, in this season of joy, goodwill, and peace on earth; calmness, clarity, health and happiness can be restored.
Natural “Coping Skills” for Managing Holiday Sensory Overload
A multitude of those who celebrate winter holidays, whether its Chanukah, Ramadan, Kwanzaa, Christmas, or others, attempt, with great effort, to squeeze a year’s buildup of kindness, excitement, generosity, and passion into a few short days and longer nights of celebratory perfection. Truly there is no such flawlessness, human (the ne plus ultra), or traditional holiday event, but the desire for the consummate shared experiences of these annual and special occasions is very real and often, temporarily debilitating. In order to moderate the overwhelming feelings and expectations of the holidays, try the simple and natural activities which allow a “time-out”, and the headspace to regain inner serenity. These coping skills include:
Self-Talk – Transforming Inner Speech
Wanting to maintain a stronger, mentally positive mindset, and nullify any negativity in the season of good will, and beyond, takes effort and focus, but the benefits are tremendous for a more deeply happy and healthy life. The self-talk dialogue initiated naturally, during waking hours, should be one of the most effect actions taken to become more positive and optimistic. It can be silent thinking or spoken out loud. Referring to one’s self in the third person, he or she, allows for a deeper insight into any unconscious thoughts, which are then able to be tweaked into kind, supportive, flexible and confident thinking, silencing the critic within, and allowing for optimism and heightened energy in dealing with all the hassle that’s happening. Self-talk practiced daily, gives the practitioner the power to control reactivity to the stressful holiday situations, and many others as well.
Self-talk allows for a tempering of the expectations that celebrations often generate and affords the opportunity to set “do-able” limits on the activities which will engage families during special moments. It also helps identify negativity, offering an opportunity to think it through, and dispel it. Practicing self-talk is the best way to create a script for living which grows self-confidence, optimism, and peacefulness and greater happiness.
Self-Love, Living with Intention
Self-love is a crucial tool for achieving natural wellness, stress relief, peacefulness and balance during the beautiful but hectic holidays, and during numerous life’s challenges which cannot be controlled, yet must be engaged in to achieve goals and feel purposeful. It is living with self-compassion, kindness, forgiveness and faith as mistakes are made, time is mismanaged, and human flaws and frailties impede the personal life’s plan, and holiday goals which have failed to both bright and merry on a specific date of the year. When the realization that perfection is not possible; and knowledge is sought and gained from mistakes made, with good intent; then learning to show one’s self respect, as the human condition is constantly evolving and not complete at adulthood, this is when true serenity is achieved, no matter what obligations, familial or other, ceremonies, and traditions are occurring.
Making a conscious effort to craft a coping plan for future endeavors, family and career goals, travel, wellness, through self-talk, self-love and natural methods of relaxation, creates the foundation for copious amounts of joy and happiness throughout the coming years, and celebrations. Being a life coach for the self, offers inner peace which becomes contagious for others as well, in this incredibly beautiful world.